Talking it Over: Taking it one day at a time
Living your life from day to day is a good plan but difficult to do. People advise you to take things one day at a time, and there are even songs and poems about this. However, saying it and doing it are two different things.
I am a planner, both long range and short term. I like to know what is going to happen next week, next month and even for the next few years. Sometimes a sudden change of plans is fun and exciting, but for the most part I like to know what is going to take place before it happens.
Life doesn’t always allow us to plan ahead. My husband has recently taken ill and is requiring regular dialysis treatments. His treatments are three times a week and take up a good portion of the day. This has put a lot of restrictions on our lives, especially his. We are hopeful that this situation will change in the future, but for now we have to simply take it as it comes.
That is how I realized that sometimes it is best to just take things one day at a time. It is too difficult to plan too far ahead because you just never know how he will feel or what will be going on then. Even from one treatment to the next, the way he feels afterward varies dramatically. You just can’t plan on having a good day.
It hasn’t been easy for him, or for me, to change our thinking and lifestyle to adjust for this. We are used to doing our own projects around the house, going out with family and friends, and working on a regular schedule. All of these things have had to be adjusted to coordinate with doctor appointments, dialysis treatments and energy levels. Even our meals and diets have had to change. Quiet time around the house is important at regular intervals. Chores sometimes just have to wait until someone can help with them.
I am trying to tell myself each and every day that we just need to get through that day and the next. We don’t know what is around the corner or how long this will last. We just have to take what is given to us and deal with it, one day at a time, thankful for each and every one of those days.